You’re over — and he’s still getting some, without the commitment of being your boyfriend. Is this safe for your heart?
Have you ever heard the expression, ‘Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?’ Well, that’s exactly what your ex is getting when you fall back into bed with him after your breakup!
It might seem safe, and you might think you’re destined to get back together, but let’s play straight here: if you and your former BF are doing the horizontal tango and he hasn’t so much as uttered a word about romantic reconciliation, you’ve been had. He’s being nasty to you by only wanting to do the nasty.
Granted, we want to think the best of our ex. We want to believe that he was wrong when he let you walk away and came to a startling realization that you were the one…and needed to see how you’d be in bed a few more times (* notice that he only calls when he’s drunk or bored?) because he re-confessed his love. But let me tell you: men are lazy. If you’re allowing him to sleep with you or be his booty call, you’ve downgraded, my friend.
You’re telling him ‘Hey, it’s cool. This is what I want, too!’ Men are dumb when it comes to relationships, but not THAT dumb. He’s being wily in the fact that he knows he doesn’t have to make a commitment YET — and he still gets laid while he’s waiting for the next girl to come along.
Getting down without commitment isn’t doing either of you any favors. Avoid the late-night phone calls by refusing to pick up. Make him miss you, and you might get him to recommit (and that’s a long shot). Because really, who wants to be a friend with benefits when you’ve already had the benefit of an amazing boyfriend? Don’t turn back, and never settle for less than you deserve.