Here’s how you can save face when the love of your life doesn’t have the guts to end it face-to-face

We’ve all been there on the receiving end of that “Dear Jane” phone call. You know the one: where the love of your life unexpectedly and awkwardly tells you “It’s not you, it’s me”, but doesn’t have the guts to say it to to your face. But how can you react to such a disrespectful kiss-off and still come off as cool as cucumber?

There’s no other way to break it down: ending a serious relationship over the phone and not in person is shitastic. If you’ve cared about someone at all, you honor them by at least ending it the right way, honestly and in person. But if he’s not going to give you what you deserve, then you need to play the same game…

For one, if your boyfriend is ending it with you over the phone, he’s thought it out; he’s ready for it to be over. Do NOT plead with him to reconsider — it will only make you look desperate. Instead, take a deep breath and say, “I’ve been feeling the same way actually, but I’m glad you said it first. I was feeling too guilty to end it.” Mind you, this won’t make him reconsider the break-up, but it will confuse him and make him feel insecure — exactly the way he’s making you feel by putting you in the position of ending it over the phone.

Most importantly, DO NOT CRY. Try to sound strong and casual, as if the conversation isn’t affecting you at all. And do not be the first person to say, “We should totally be friends. I still care about you a lot.” Let him say it, even if he doesn’t mean it (he won’t mean it). By dumping you so callously, he has no rights or privileges to your friendship or your feelings.

Which means, naturally, you don’t need to protect his feelings or worry about keeping HIS friendship. So it shouldn’t bother you at all to let the world just how big his penis really is…

You will survive, LoveTrekkers!

Laura xo

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