Does it ever work out if you fall in love with your best friend’s guy? Only in the movies, apparently!
SPOILER ALERT. Just going to throw that out there. I will be talking in depth about Kate Hudson‘s new film, Something Borrowed, while exploring the pretty overt question that begs to be discussed: can we ever date our best friend’s boyfriend and keep our friendship intact?
Dex (the-I-would-get-naked-for-your-smoldering-blue-gaze Colin Egglesfield) and Rachel (Ginnifer Goodwin) are law school buddies. Anyone can see that he’s beyond into her, but she, with some pretty typical plain jane insecurities, couldn’t possibly imagine that a guy that sexy, rich and successful would like her. Cue Darcy (Kate), Rachel’s sexy, over-the-top party girl best friend.
*Attempting* to be a good friend, Darcy demands to know why Dex hasn’t taken her BFF out on a proper date yet, to which Rachel utters these damning words, flush with embarrassment: “We’re just friends.” Because she knows a good thing when she sees it, the self-possessed Darcy takes her pal’s words at face value and essentially says, “Well, if you don’t want him, I do.”
On the evening of her 30th birthday, Rachel suddenly confesses her former love to Dex. They shag. They’re confused — especially because he’s about to marry Darcy and she is the maid of honor. Awkward, right?
Here’s where the spoilers come in. It’s clear that Dex and Rachel have more in common than he and Darcy do, and that they’ve always had unresolved feelings for one another. However, they’re both so passive (which to me is just about the worst thing you can be when you really, really want something) that they’ve never done anything about it. So they cheat. He proclaims his love and then walks away because of some stupid subplot where he’s expected to do right by his rich daddy, who happens to be buying him a $2 million house as a wedding present.
But let’s get back on topic. In my heart, I know how silly this movie is. Its completely fantastical, the characters aren’t really fleshed out and Colin does little more than smolder at the camera. That said, the movies I like best are the ones you can watch over and over and over again, that don’t take themselves too seriously. What’s wrong with chick flicks? Does every movie have to be like The Hurt Locker? Fluffy = fine by me.
I’m willing to pretend that there’s real anguish in Colin’s crystal blue eyes, that the strong but silent thing he has going on is actually suffering. I like that the screenwriters, directors, whoever made Darcy so utterly unlikeable — despite the fact that a nice girl like Rachel wouldn’t have lasted two seconds around the man-eating wild child for more than five minutes. But then, I like my movies with a big, fat dose of fantasy. Hollywood flicks should be escapism at its finest. If I wanted reality, I’d turn on the news.
Have you ever fallen in love with your best friend’s boyfriend/husband? I never, ever have — but I can imagine how horrific and sickening it must feel to know you could always potentially lose the two people you love the most. Only on celluloid (big spoiler here!) could the girl get the guy, kind of keep the friend (ol’ Kate may have done some cheating of her own) and ignore the fantastic, gorgeous guy who also loves her (John Krasinski, who’s one-liners give the movie some much-needed levity).
But, again, that’s fantasy. Life — and love — doesn’t always have that happy ending. Still, I did take away a few lessons from this rom-com, which was based on Emily Giffin‘s chick-lit book, ‘Something Borrowed’, and that is this: don’t sit around waiting for things to happen to you. If you really want something, go and get it! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: never, ever, have regrets.