Want a romance as epic as Bella and Edward’s only — you know — real? Read on, Twi-hards!
Love it or hate it, Twilight is a romantic phenomenon (I’d say a romantic’s wet dream but that feels kind of sleazy given that it’s about a teenager’s love affair with a vampire). There’s teenage angst, fangs, blood, broodiness and Robert Pattinson. But did you know that you could actually walk away from the saga with some genuine knowledge? I didn’t. I walked away thinking, ‘God, I’d really want a man like Edward Cullen, but only if he speaks with a British accent’, and ‘Forks, Washington looks depressing’ not ‘Will I one day have vampire babies? How do I get them? I bet they don’t come from storks!’ or ‘Should I date a strong, silent slightly homosexual type like Taylor Lautner or a man who refers to me as a spider monkey like Robert (for the record, the answer to that question is always Rob, spider monkey chatter, glittering skin and all)’.
This is why a writer who calls herself Donna Cullen has provided a piece on the love lessons you can take from Twilight. Ms. C, I’m with you on all but two things. No. 8 — a man can never be your best friend — is totally off. Other men may not like it, but many of my best friends are males, and very few of them want to shag me. Fact. Secondly, you can take the last name of Cullen. It’s yours. I’m going for Pattinson!
- Long distance relationships never work. Edward was so sure that their love could handle the separation. It may often seem like that, when a couple first becomes separated by distance, but over time, the lack of shared experience will take its toll. Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain for long periods of time.
- Love at first sight is real. Edward never really notices any other girl at his school after first seeing Bella. That was all it took, that ‘first sight’ of the one he was meant to be with.
- Love has no prejudice. When you’re really in love, you can see past all of the outward differences between two people, even when those differences are of a human and a vampire.
- Jealousy is a killer. The green-eyed monster, as jealousy has been referred to, showed itself in these stories between Jacob and Edward. Jacob’s jealousy aroused more than a little animosity towards his rival.
- Love is more than skin deep. Belle and Edward were not simply attracted to each other because of their physical looks. Edward enjoyed everything about Belle. He liked talking with her, because she was intelligent and had a strong personality. He admired her as much as he loved her. The same was true of Belle’s appreciation for Edward.
- When you really love someone, you can’t live without them. When Edward thought that Bella was dead he was going to expose himself. Bella felt the same way when Edward leaves in New Moon. Belle wanted to become a vampire, so that she would be able to be with Edward forever.
- Your best friend can’t be of the opposite sex. Belle thought that she and Jacob could just be best friends and not get romantically involved. Since Belle was already in love with Edward, it was true for her, but not for Jacob. The more he was with Belle, the more in love with her, he became.
- Love doesn’t care about other people’s opinion. Edward and Bella had to face the judgement of the other students and their friends. Their love for each other was able to sustain them through those experiences. They were able to see beyond the surface things that others saw.
- Love is self-sacrificing. Edward was willing to sacrifice his own desires for the well-being of Belle. He was willing to put her desires before his own. Her happiness and well-being were of more importance to him than his own.
- Love can totally change your perspective. Bella was so sure that moving to Forks was going to make her miserable, but after she meets Edward, she feels like she never wants to leave. Your feelings are powerful things, and being with someone you love can make all the difference in the world towards your perspective on your other circumstances.