A new study says that guys in your office aren’t actually interested — they’re just killing time
When it comes to crushing on a co-worker, I think we can all safely say we’ve been there and done that (unless, of course, you happen to work in NYC entertainment industry, whereupon 99.9% of all the men you’ll meet are gay). It’s fun to have an office crush. It gives you something to look forward to in the morning when you’re hitting your alarm for the fifth time. But say that the hot male co-worker you’ve been mooning over actually flirts with you in return. Do you buy into his charm? A new study says no.
A new study released by the University of Surrey and presented by the British Psychological Society found that men who flirt at work tend to be less satisfied with their jobs, and, to distract themselves, turn on the charm with female co-workers.
UoS researchers Chadi Moussa and Adrian Banks asked 201 participants to complete a questionnaire regarding flirting behaviours at work, job satisfaction, self-reported job performance and personality traits; the test subjects were both men and women between the ages of 21-68.
The strongest findings were related to men.
“These findings contradict popular notions that flirting at work can make employees mores satisfied or perform better,” says Moussa. “If men are feeling unsatisfied in their roles, then they may resort to flirting to keep them entertained and this would partially explain the negative relationship. While flirting can have benefits, excessive flirting at work may be a sign that you’re unsatisfied with your job or simple bored.”
Results regarding women and workplace didn’t suggest a similar boredom threshold.
To be fair, I haven’t worked in many environments where there’s more than one token male (entertainment is a bitch). But I did work with an ex (albeit in different offices on opposite sides of the country), and he was known as a bit of an ‘office scoundrel’ (to quote Bridget Jones’ Diary), flirting with the east coast ladies because he could. Fact: he was always bored at work.
The study makes sense. This just confirms my opinion that dating on the job is a bad move. When you break up — because there usually will be a when, not an if — it’s going to make the breakup that much harder by being forced to see one another every day. But getting your hopes up and falling for a guy who’s just using you as a means to an end — a time-killer — is almost as bad.
What do you think? Have you ever had a relationship with a co-worker that worked out? Do you buy into this study? Sound off!