Relax, I’m not going on an estrogen-filled pity rant. It’s a new show on VH1 – and it rocks

Why am I still single is a question we all ask ourselves at one time or another in our lives. We are catches, dammit. Why is that so hard for certain men to see? Well, a new VH1 reality show professes to have the answer in the form of dating coach and love guru Siggy Flicker. She is the antithesis of Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger, and I love her.

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The premise of the show is simple. Flicker takes two disastrous daters on each episode and analyzes where they’re going wrong.  It’s like when a guy dumps you and says “it’s not you, it’s me” but you know it really is your fault. Well, Flicker knows it is too: and she’s here to help.

After analyzing your bad dating habits and setting you up on ‘test dates’, she lets her love pickers loose around New York City to find your perfect date.  She also throws in a little What Not to Wear action by having identical twin stylists Jenn and Jamie (who look more like Playboy models than fashionistas) make the singleton date-friendly.

I do believe the show — and Flicker — will be successful, as long as the would-be-daters live up to their end of the bargain. Why are you single? You’re not sure: but you know there’s some kind of reason.

In the first episode, two very different New Yorkers try their luck at altering their dating strategies. Neither have great dates, but the man, Sergio, is successful because he’s learned how to become a better dater. He knows what the problem is, and he’s intent on fixing it.

What did he learn? “To have a good time. Don’t try to impress. Be yourself,” the 24-year-old says sweetly. He will be a success.

As Siggy Flicker notes, “99.99% of all human beings hate dating because [they hear] there was ‘no chemistry.’ You don’t know who anyone is going to have chemistry with. You can’t judge a book by its cover.”

I don’t even need the assistance of this love coach: she just told me what my particular problem was for free!

Catch the series premiere on October 16th at 9 p.m. on VH1.

LAURA