It’s Stalking Awareness month…be safe
In honor of Stalking Awareness Month this January, I thought I’d post an excerpt from my book, Internet Dating 101. This subject is about Facebook stalking, in particular, and how to avoid stalking your object of affection’s page…on the sly, that is. Let the healing begin!
First off, I know it’s hard, but please try to ex- ercise some willpower. Limit your ‘casual’ checks to one quick scan per day. Try not to read too much into everything he writes, and don’t assume ev- erything is about you. If you’re in the initial stages of dating, remember that he is allowed to see other women until you’ve made it exclusive, as you’re allowed to see other men. Don’t freak.
If there are those of you who have admirably restrained from even glancing at his page, but are seduced into taking a peek when he comes up in your news feed, here’s yet another trick: you can unsubscribe from him! Yes, it’s true. All you need to do is go to his page (one last time, ladies, one last time) and click on the “subscribe” button, changing it to “unsubscribe.” It’s that simple.
Next, for your own security, put him on a lim- ited profile setting so that he can only see some of the shenanigans you’ve been up to. That said, be- cause of the new security settings, you now have the ability to censor what he sees, so be vigilant about it. If you’re going to play the game while us- ing social media, you might as well play it smart.
This goes for photos, too. You might (and by “might” I mean should) want to go back and keep him from seeing certain albums. You don’t want to give any guy that you’re serious about dating the idea that you’re a good-time girl, that you have a problem with alcohol or can’t seem to stop sticking your tongue down the throats of strange men. Then again, if you’re constantly making out with random guys, you have other things to worry about than what one dude thinks of your Facebook profile. Just saying.